Source: Evansville Courier and Press
Administrator’s Note: This story is ironic in so many ways. First of all, the father in this story’s name is actually Michael Jackson. Secondly, it deals with loving and caring for unwanted children, some with special needs and would have mostly likely not had a chance to live in a loving home. As we know, children were Michael’s heart and passion. Third, our Michael wanted to have a large family with many children. I truly believe that in this uncanny way, Michael has gotten his wish through the twin Jackson family. May God always bless them for their big hearts of love. They are my new found heroes. ♥
Photo by Kyle Grantham, The Evansville Courier & Press – 2010 Kyle R Grantham – 2010. Michael Jackson and his son Robert share a laugh during family dinner on a recent Thursday night. Michael and Mary-Jo Jackson have adopted 27 children over the years from all over the world, in addition to raising seven biological children.
“A little girl on a beach stops to save a starfish (one of many on the beach) by throwing it back into the ocean.
“An old man passing by comments that she is wasting her efforts with so many others on the beach: One person could not make a difference, he told her.
“The little girl bent down, picked up another starfish and threw it into the sea.
” ‘I made a difference to that one,’ she said.”
This is a story Michael Jackson tells to describe his philosophy.
“That story epitomizes what we do,” Jackson said, to explain why he and his wife, Mary-Jo, have 20 children living in their home in Evansville’s historic district.
“And that’s not all of them,” Mary-Jo said. Since their marriage 40 years ago, she has given birth to seven and the couple has adopted 27 children, for a total of 34.
That’s a lot of starfish.
The couple and their tribe moved to Evansville last summer from upstate New York for Michael’s job as an engineering manager at Mead Johnson Nutritionals.
“We talked a lot about having a large family before we got married,” Mary-Jo said. “It was something we both wanted.”
“But to be honest, I always figured we would have four or five,” Michael said. “To me, that was a large family, as I only have one brother.”
After “The Original Seven” (as they are called on the family website, www.onehugefam ily.com) were well on their way to adulthood, the Jacksons decided to branch out.
Initially, they looked into becoming foster parents but were turned down.
“We were told that seven children (in the house) was too many (to qualify to foster any more),” Mary-Jo said.
Undaunted, they began researching adoption possibilities. “We were looking for special needs children,” she said. “Our seven had been normal.”
International adoption became the most productive path. In 1994, the Jacksons went to Russia and came home with Bryan.
Four months later, they went back and brought Rachel home.
Bryan was 3, spoke no English and had been born with a malformed leg. He needed an amputation and a prosthesis, Mary-Jo said. The Jacksons adopted him, brought him into their home in Minneapolis and had his medical needs addressed.
Bryan, now 21, is receiving job-search services through the Vocational Rehabilitation Center; Rachel, now 22, attended culinary school and lives in Vermont.
The Jacksons were just getting warmed up.
“Once I saw the children in the orphanages, I knew that we couldn’t stop at adopting just one child,” Michael said.
Their latest adoption was finalized July 7.
The kids are so used to new additions to the family that “if a visitor comes to our house with a child, our younger ones want to know if we are adopting,” Mary-Jo said.
The Jacksons would consider adopting more, “but with 20 kids in the house, no one is willing to give us any more,” she said, a little wistfully. “An orphanage is no place for a child.”
By the numbers
The Jacksons’ 27 adopted children include: Eleven from Russia; two from Kazakhstan; one each from Serbia, China, Vietnam and Korea; two from Romania; three from Bulgaria; and five from Texas (including one native Texas “good ol’ boy”).
The Texans are “re-adoptions,” Mary-Jo said, explaining that sometimes well-meaning adoptive parents become overwhelmed by the special needs of their children and end up having to surrender them.
All of the Jackson children are enrolled in school: Four are at Reitz High School; one is at Harrison High School; one attends the EVSC Technical Institute; there is one each at Helfrich Park Middle School, West Terrace Elementary School and Glenwood Leadership Academy; five attend Christ the King Elementary School; and six are at Memorial High School.
The Jacksons are Roman Catholic, but the parochial school system is not set up to handle some of the special services some of the children require, Mary-Jo said, adding that “both school systems have been fantastic to us.”
Faith and Values
“We are leading very intentional lives. Very intense lives,” Mary-Jo said.
“Our faith is very strong and I don’t think we would be where we are now if we didn’t have faith in God’s ability to give us all the strength we need,” Michael added.
The Jacksons worship at St. Mary Catholic Church in Downtown Evansville, within walking distance of their home.
Donna Leader, a volunteer at St. Mary’s, said “to see them in church is amazing; two of them say Mass in sign language the older children look after the young ones; Mom and Dad sit in a pew in front of them they all act like adults.”
The Rev. Steve Lintzenich, pastor at St. Mary’s, said: “They are a lovely family; it is exciting to have one family fill two pews. They sit up front they are well-disciplined, well-churched children so alive Michael and Mary-Jo show great example in bringing those children to faith.”
Discipline and organization
“Being consistent and fair are major keys to running our household,” Michael said.
There are daily and weekly assigned chores, he added. The children know there always are consequences to their behavior (no dessert; missing out on activities) it is important that both parents stay on the same page with that, the Jacksons agree.
Learning to share is critically important.
“We always come from the point of view that everything we teach the children is part of the information they need to be successful adults in our society,” Michael said.
Logistically, the only way the family with 20 kids in school can stay on track is by remaining highly organized. A really big bulletin board helps, Mary-Jo said. “I’d be lost without it!”
The family gets around in two large vans and a sedan.
Mary-Jo does “99 percent of the cooking the kids get breakfast and lunch at school, but we try to eat supper together as a family every night,” she said.
“I shop for food about twice a week; I scour the ads what’s on sale is what we eat there’s a lot of pasta and casseroles, fruits, vegetables, we have a salad every night and I love to bake, so we have dessert,” Mary-Jo said.
Photo by Kyle Grantham, The Evansville Courier & Press – 2010 Kyle R Grantham – 2010. KYLE GRANTHAM / Courier & Press Bryan (from left), Colin and Kevin listen to their mother, Mary-Jo Jackson, along with their sister and Mercy, right, during dinner.
Photo by Kyle Grantham, The Evansville Courier & Press – 2010 Kyle R Grantham – 2010. Photos by KYLE GRANTHAM / Courier & Press The Jackson family children gather for dinner around a table that stretches through two rooms in the Jackson home.
Clothes are hand-me-downs: “Our kids think new clothes come in black plastic bags,” Mary-Jo quipped. “We save everything.
“We do get new clothes for the older kids so they can fit in with their peers, but thank goodness for school uniforms!”
The family’s 6,600- square-foot house has eight bedrooms and 3½ baths.
“You have to be in high school to take a morning shower, otherwise you shower at night. Some of the littlest ones take their baths before dinner,” Mary-Jo said.
Kids older than 16 do their own laundry, at prescribed times. Mary-Jo averages two loads a day for the rest of the family.
Michael and Mary Jo both are 60, but retirement is not in their vocabulary. Their youngest is only 8 and given the chance, Mary-Jo said, they’d be happy to adopt more.
The Children
Sara Norwood, 37, is the second-oldest of seven children born to Michael and Mary-Jo Jackson; she now lives in Florida.
She was a sophomore in college when her parents began talking to their children about adopting Bryan, the first of 27 children who eventually joined the family fold,”But I was only home for vacations and during the summer.
“I was a little surprised, initially; they showed us a picture of Bryan in the orphanage. I remember a photo of a little boy without a leg that they said they were going to bring home.
“But it was an abstract concept. It was a lot different when he got here.”
Norwood said she was not really surprised when, four months later, Rachel showed up: “We were told there was going to be more than one, but I don’t think any of us ever expected more than 20.”
Sara’s sister, Erin Thornton, 29, of Fort Wayne, is number six of the “Original Seven” children in the Jackson family. She was in middle school when her parents decided to adopt Bryan: “It was a huge family moment; we were all very involved,” she said.
As the months and years passed and the number of children steadily increased, the entire family took it in stride. “I am very proud to be a part of this family,” Erin said. “Our lifestyle growing up made me want a handful of kids so they can experience a little of what I had growing up.”
“Anyone I encounter says, ‘Oh my gosh, your parents are amazing,’” Erin said. “And all I can do is agree.”